what do when boredom kicks in relationship? part 2

Hey! hope you were able to make a note of what created the spark. if not read part 1 then please read & then continue this one.

How do you bring the back the spark? Its very simple, break the routine. I know you wouldn’t have or would have expected this. Break the routine!

what’s new

When was the last time you learnt something new & something totally different. If you say you learnt something related to your work. Nope that’s not counted. Come on!! You are going to talk the same boring shit again with a different variation, where is it going to create the curiosity in your life. When i say different, i mean something totally different & out of the box. At present, there are so many short creative classes out in the market like  painting (there are different kinds), pottery, dance classes. Go learn.

If you say my partner is still boring, he wouldn’t listen to me, that fine. You go learn it, add that joy, creativity, fun in your life & let that trickle out to your partner. Trust me eventually it will.

A little twist in this, you can do some activity together & bring back those date nights, movie nights, special meal at home, surprise your partner, the more fun & play you add, the more easy a relationship becomes.

Caution: Do not force your partner to listen to you if you have been doing something different, don’t expect them to show sudden interest in you. Let it flow & enjoy your thing. If you are solely doing it for attention seeking, all you are going to do is measure the attention you getting & then the learning isn’t fun, its a task that you are forcing yourself to do & forcing a spark in your relationship.

You didn’t force the spark out of your relationship, you cant force it back either.

Its Ta-boo, so lets boo it. 

Spice your sexual relationship. No matter what anyone says, sex plays an important role in a relationship, There are many articles on internet talking about how lack of sex or sexual chemistry leads to boredom in a relationship & how it can improve a relationship (unless its not a toxic one). Read up on it, speak to your partner about fantasies, what can be worked out, take a break somewhere.

Relax

In this busy world, we are constantly on a run. Our jobs, balancing home & work, commuting to office, traffic, colleagues, boss, kids & many other factors cuts down our efficiency, drains our energy by the end of  day & all you want to do is not talk & sleep. I get that!! Few things here cant be changed for practical reasons. What can be changed then?

A little change in your diet, cut the junk & processed food out. Keep your phone away at night, at least 30 mins before you go to bed. Don’t look at your phone immediately after you wake up. This is tried & tested, the days immediately i go to sleep after some games on phone, my sleep is effected & when i wake up & see the phone immediately my eye strains & in long run it has disturbed my sleep cycle, that again caused stress, changes in the way your hormones & chemicals in brain are released. Its whole cycle which for sure messes up not only your relationship, also your body & your efficiency at work.

Your ME time.

Its nice to take a break for self, do spend that alone time with self. I do know its difficult to find that with our busy schedules, responsibilities & people around us. What can be done that is easy? Can you come up with ideas & list them below so others can read?

i will share them too soon but before i do, i would like to hear from you.

These are few tips that you can try out & see what changes in you & in your relationship.

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Happy you creates a happy relationship

Love J