The Subtle Dance Between Karmic relationships, the Subconscious Mind & ego.

How one relationship helped me unravel deep subconscious patterns — not by staying, but by showing up briefly and intensely. It has taken me years of learning, observing myself, being brutal, and constantly doing the inner work.

There have been very few relationships I could label as karmic or driven by subconscious patterns. I’ve been doing inner work for years to heal my trauma and toxic relationship patterns that stem from it. Being into spirituality, I also understand:some relationships are soul bonds, some karmic, some meant for life, and some stay with us until we learn our lessons — or clear the debt.

A Familiar Stranger

My recent encounter with someone had me questioning everything.My critical mind asked — do I really desire him, or is this just ego?

What you’re going to read from now on is a part of my internal journey — and simultaneously, you gain awareness, ways to identify and resolve.

Everything here is my perspective. The other person may have felt completely different.

He felt familiar. As if we had known each other for years.

I even joked once, “Either he is my brother from another mother or a husband since a decade.”Our ways of thinking, our energies — they matched in a rare, uncanny way.

Especially considering how much I’ve changed in the last few years.

And I knew — this wasn’t one of my old toxic patterns.My body now gives off weird alarms when I come across that energy on dating apps.

But this ease… had a subconscious pattern beneath it.

The Karmic Layer

Some relationships carry this insane push & pull dynamic — a feeling of belonging, of “home,” of déjà vu.

But they come with soul-altering lessons.There are debts to pay. Karma to clear. Oaths taken. Life aspects that need to be shaken, collapsed… so that we gather the parts of ourselves required for our next version.

The intensity of such connections used to overwhelm me.Now, they nudge. They whisper. But they don’t drag me down.

The Soulmate Illusion

I don’t believe in the “twin flame” concept. Our parents, siblings, children, partners, friends — they’re all soulmates.They reflect our wounds, our gifts, our generational curses and wisdom.

They help us progress — and I use that word intentionally. Because the soul doesn’t care about forward or backward.It only knows movement. When we stay stagnant too long, discomfort begins —“I don’t feel like myself,”“I want to tear everything apart,”That restlessness? It’s progress waiting.

The Subconscious Pattern: "I Want to Be Chosen"

When I did Redikal’s “I solve, I resolve” process to clear karmic energy, a deeper layer unfolded.

A subtle loop emerged:The need to be chosen = I am special = I am worthy.

I know where it comes from. The work is still ongoing.(By the way, this same pattern also shows up in my business journey.)

“Have you questioned why — out of 100s of people — you deeply connect with just a few?And those few shake you the most?”

Our subconscious mind is brilliant at pulling in exactly the people we are meant to shatter with, grow with, learn from, gather ourselves through — and gain wisdom.

The Ego Voice: “How Could I Be Rejected?"

This time it didn’t play out fully — but it whispered.And I caught it.

I asked:

“I know this connection is done. The energy is dead. He showed me a part of who I was — and I’ve moved on from her. So what’s left here?”

A little silence… a question asked… and then let go. The answers always come — not immediately, but they do.

We Take Rejection Personally

Our mind translates anything that doesn’t go our way as rejection or unworthiness.

But in reality — everyone is just making choices.And choosing what’s best for them at that moment.

We’ve been conditioned to think:“More people liking me = I am more worthy.”

It’s a trap.

The Ego Boost Through Partners

A tricky one.

Sometimes we choose people based on how they make us look — to our family, our friends, our social circle. It’s not love.It’s a desire to feel worthy through association.

In the past, I chose high-profile men — unconsciously.

This time, I asked myself honestly: “Am I with him because I like him, or because he elevates my image?”

When I imagined being seen in public or at a family function with him —there was no need to prove anything.There was joy. Ease. A desire to give, without needing anything back.

The Interplay of Karma, Subconscious & Ego

This brief connection brought up all three:

• Karmic bond — something to be acknowledged and released

• Subconscious pattern — the “pick me” loop

• Ego — the sting of rejection, the old narrative of not being enough

But what helped me break the loop was this:

💡 Being mindful of which one is speaking. Karma, ego, subconscious — each has its own language.

When you identify the voice, it becomes easier to return to yourself.

Final Reflection:

Every relationship is an extension of you.It’s not you. That one line changed how I view all my relationships. Even my cat, my maid, my house, my clients — they require presence and effort.

That’s the core of connection. Whether short, karmic, long-term, romantic, or platonic — all of them mirror us back to ourselves.

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• Who impacted you the most in your life?

• Was it karmic, ego-driven, or subconscious?

• What are you learning through it?

✨ And if you’re on your journey of healing relationship patterns — let’s talk. You don’t have to decode it all alone.

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