Women, periods & Men

Recently i asked few of my guy friends ” why do men avoid women during their periods & few days before it?” i had some weird answers ranging from they have crazy mood swings, bleeding vagina is scary imagination, cant have sex, attention seeking behaviour & cribbing.

It really made me feel sad & a bit ashamed of myself for having these kind of men in my life. The so called educated men lacked knowledge of what a women body goes through & how hormones play an important role in shaping a woman’s body, period cycle from menarche to menopause, their emotions & child birthing. Their ignorance to read about it & not extend a helping hand during these times baffled me.

Its not their fault its patriarchy, talking about menstruation is a taboo, the person is untouchable & separated in many homes, in cities we have grown out of it but many small towns & villages still follow many such practices making a woman feel “menstruation is a curse” rather than a boon that allows her to give life a human for those 9 months. Its the same blood that men are also been born from, sorry sperm did one act & rest was by a menstruating woman who didnt for those 9 months.

It has taken us lifetimes to embrace our menstruation, womanhood & know that women can hold each other, support & grow together. We have woken up & have started waking many women & men along these journeys breaking chains of toxic patriarchy & matriarchy (yes, both exists).

This is specially for men, you wouldnt fall off from your pedestal if you educate yourself about woman’s body (apart from boobs & vagina) functioning, hormones & period cycle. It wouldnt make you less of a man if you take care of a woman in your life be it your mom, sister, daughter, wife, girlfriend & colleague during “those days”. We would really appreciate it.

Yes, we do go through mood swings as our body is preparing to shed some blood, thats something that happens involuntarily.

Did you ever wondered why most women get cold to their male partner? we have been treated badly, ignored, made fun of during our most vulnerable phase which happens to be every month. We started to see how rude, shallow, selfish, mean, insensitive you are to us especially when we need you & little extra care, love & attention. Unfortunately we cant leave you, so most of them become cold & manipulative to get that extra attention.

It somehow becomes a pattern & subconscious belief that i have to manipulate you & throw tantrums to get little extra TLC on “those days”.

Listen, we really didnt gang up to GOD & jumped like little excited girls & said “we want to bleed every month, we want those pains, cramps, mood swings, give birth & go through all those shitty phases & lets start when we are 12!! *all of us looking at each other baffled with 12!!!* YES YES YES!! & you can add more!! *cute smile, bright eyes*” i still wonder who said YES!

Nah!! boys we didn’t. We would have happily passed it to you & watched you deal with it, oh boy thats so fun to imagine. The thought of your balls be squeezed could lead you to so much pain & you have to go through these..would be fun :D.

We do like men, we know you have also dealt with & deal with lot of things, just not those misogyny attitude, sexual lures, discrimination, constantly been told how to be a “good girl/woman”, everything is our fault, how not to get sexually abused. We really miss those privileges that you have & yes sometimes i am jealous & envious of you for that.

Its not your fault that you were fed all these, you are still to be blamed for not changing yourself. I for sure know Women tribes are building, slowly, silently, we are like breeze, we will choose conscious men & leave most to mercy of patriarchy that you hold so dear to. HUGS to my women tribe Jaanvi

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