It happens!! really?
- jaanvi tourani
- Jun 28, 2020
- 2 min read
“It happens” has been one of my constant internal dialogue or justification for the abuse & trauma i went through. Off lately some random old memories have been popping up, the ones i thought i had dealt with. Thou they didn’t have any emotional charge or panic which i used to go through but it seem have had some impact on my current life – relationship & money.
Every time some restrictive belief would pop up & interrogating it would lead to some childhood trauma my immediate response would be “it happens”. I was justifying what i went through was right, i deserved it, its ok everyone goes through it, this is how things are, this how things will be… phew!! wow!! how much had i made it right to suffer & let past unknowingly dictate my present & future.
All it took was to just say “NO! it doesnt happen. I did go through it. I wasnt at fault. I know i cant change my past. I am no more letting it dictate my life anymore.” Everytime i went into “It happens” i would stop & reaffirm “No! i am changing this”, “it wasnt my fault” , i know every abuse & trauma victim 1st blames self & the perpetrator has made permanent place in one’s mind. Abuse doesnt always have to be rape, violence & other horrific incidents. They are also the emotional & mental torture that has frozen a part of a person & the incident has left a huge impact on one’s life.
Do you know when one person changes a pattern it trickles down to many people? may not be everything, it does to their capacity to change. Some change, some get inspired & to some its seed been planted for different possibilities.
Neither I nor YOU have to go through repeating patterns, where it changes a bit & then stagnated & then some change or not.
May sound as a sales pitch or may be it is. I have seen darker shades of life & i have been blessed to have invisible (masters, spirits) & amazing people on the journey to move me to a better place. If you looking for coaching/Therapy drop in a mail to jaanvi.t.31@gmail.com
Love J
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